Remembering Past Loves Post-Parenthood

There are a few things you need to know about me. The first is that I love movies. The second is that I hardly get to watch them anymore. The movies I do watch are more Michael Bay than Ingmar Bergman (they both have a knack for grandiloquence and over-the-top film-making, it is just that one of them has something to say, while the other has explosions to show you).This is a difficult thing for me to accept, but the reason is a good one. In short, I am a father, and a stay-at-home parent at that. My daughter Lucy is fourteen months old, and my last movie binge occurred roughly a year ago when I annihilated several lengthy Kurosawa films while she slept on my lap. Now Lucy runs around like an adorable crazy person without stopping… ever. By the end of the day I am so physically and emotionally exhausted from loving her so much that I don’t have the energy to pour over the Criterion Collection on Hulu Plus. Now I just sit back and watch half of This is 40 or its countless variations before falling asleep on the couch.

You know how a lot of parents stop going to church once they have kids, because they are just too tired? Well, Tarkovsky used to be my religion, and watching his films in silent meditation was going to church. Now I get exhausted just thinking about watching a Tarkovsky film. However, I am not ready to give up just yet. This blog is as much for me as it is for you; a reclamation project for previous passions (movies, writing, anything for myself) overcome by much greater passions (creating a life and then caring for it, for example).

My movie tastes are eclectic and always have been. I love talking about The Avengers as much as I do Inland Empire, and you can expect thoughtful engagement with cinema across the ages, from current Hollywood blockbusters to silent classics. For now, I will be posting a manageable twice-a-week on Mondays and Fridays. My long-term goal is to post three times a week.

Just so you can get to know me a little better, I am going to start off by listing my five favorite movies of all time (a list that is likely to vary on an hourly basis). Don’t forget to check in on Friday, when I will be previewing my most anticipated Fall films.

1. Casablanca (1942)— Dir. Michael Curtiz


2. Sans Soleil (1983)—Dir. Chris Marker

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3. Blue Velvet (1986)—Dir. David Lynch

blue velvet

4. Andrei Rublev (1966)— Dir. Andrei Tarkovsky

andre rublev

5. The Gold Rush (1925)—Dir. Charlie Chaplin

gold rush

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7 Responses to Remembering Past Loves Post-Parenthood

  1. Caity says:

    I love reading your thoughts in prose. Even when I am not familiar with the nuances of the topic, your voice draws me in. It is very vulnerable without being overly-self-deprecating. You share just enough on the topic to help along neophytes like myself, without getting bogged down in the history. You are an expert without being a braggart or a boring know-it-all. In short(ish), I am following this blog and anticipating the things to come… 🙂

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  3. amb says:

    I came across this post because I saw “Blue Velvet” in your tag cloud and got all flibbertigibberty. Man, that movie messed me up … in such a good way!

  4. Twist says:

    The fact that Stay-In Dad is admirable in itself and then you say you’re a Movie buff? What can I say? Well maybe I’ll just follow you.

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